There is one quality I’ve noticed the couples who succeed with relationship therapy have…
… A quality that those who don’t, don’t have.
Would you like to know what it is?
You would?
Okay then…
…read on and discover the one thing you and your partner must do if you want to get the full benefits of relationship therapy.
Let me start by asking you a question.
How many hours are there in a week?
You’re right.
168.
Now then, if you’re committed to good health you’re getting between 7 and 9 hours of sleep each night.
Let’s take 8 hours as an average so that’s 56 hours a week set aside for sleep.
Which leaves you with 112 waking hours.
112 hours for you to practice the tools I’ll share with you after completing my assessment of where you’re relationship is getting stuck.
It sounds so simple, doesn’t it?
And it is.
But unfortunately, more couples than I care to admit only do the relationship work during our two-hour sessions.
Can you see the problem with this?
Sure you can.
2 hours of work with me isn’t going to be nearly as effective as the 112 hours you spend as a partner to your partner.
I’m very good at what I do.
Handsome and modest too.
But the inescapable fact is that if you only do the work during sessions with me…
…You’re stacking the odds against building a long, healthy, and happy relationship with your partner.
You must understand this point.
Listen, I want you to succeed in building the kind of relationship you and your partner desire together.
And after assessing your relationship, I will have a very good idea of what the root cause of your relationship crisis is.
And then…
…Based on my experience as a couples-only therapist combined with the – evidence-based – theories I’m trained in…
…I will have a solid idea of which – tried and tested – tools are best able to fix your situation.
Then, during our sessions together I will:
- Introduce you to the specific tools for your specific situation
- I will practice them with you
- I will make certain you and your partner understand the tools
And then…
…Most importantly, I will set you homework to complete.
So that you can master the tools which will improve your relationship.
Yes, the relationship tools I have access to are that powerful.
But they’re not powerful simply because I say they’re powerful.
That’s no good.
That’s just hype bullshit.
Nope.
The reason they work so well is that they’re the result of 30+ years of rigorous scientific studies with 1000’s couples committed to finding out what helps build a long, healthy, and happy relationship.
And just as importantly…
…What doesn’t.
So, As good as I am at what I do, I’m only this good because I’m fortunate enough to be standing on the shoulders of giants.
But, the truth is this is only half of the solution.
Now let’s get back to the question I posed at the start of this post:
What’s the one big difference between those who succeed with couples therapy and those who don’t?
And the answer of course is:
It’s what they do during those 112 waking hours between sessions.
It’s why I say if you’ll do the work I give you to do inside the session…
… And more importantly, you’ll both do the homework I give you outside of our sessions…
…You’re in a much better position to get the relationship you both want.
Let me sum up with a quote from a good friend of mine:
“It works if you work it.”
If you’re prepared to roll your sleeves up and do the work necessary to build the kind of relationship you long for…
