How often have you felt you and your partner are living two separate lives even though you’re under the same roof? <\/p>\n
Maybe it’s been days since you really talked or weeks since you both did something fun together.<\/p>\n
In our increasingly busy lives, staying connected can feel like an impossible challenge. But don’t fret, because today I’m here to share seven practical tips to keep your connection alive and thriving.
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Remember when you first met? The butterflies, the stolen glances, and those endless conversations? Relive those moments. Once in a while, pick out a date from your past, recreate it, and remind yourselves why you fell in love in the first place. By doing this, you’re not just reminiscing \u2013 you’re actively rekindling those initial sparks.<\/li>\n
In my years as a couples therapist, I can’t stress enough the importance of regular communication. Schedule a fixed time every week – an hour will do – to really talk. Not about chores or bills, but about feelings, dreams, and even concerns. Listen to your partner, let them talk without interruption. I promise this habit will change the landscape of your relationship.<\/li>\n
I know, I know. We often blame smartphones and social media for our disconnection. But why not turn the tables? Send a cheeky text during the day, share a song that reminds you of them, or even have a video call over lunch. It’s these little moments that say, “I’m thinking of you.”<\/li>\n
There was this one couple I worked with who rediscovered their connection through cooking classes. Another took up wild swimming together. Find an activity you both enjoy. It doesn\u2019t matter what it is, so long as it\u2019s something you can bond over and look forward to together.<\/li>\n
And by intimacy, I mean the physical kind. It\u2019s never a popular idea when I suggest couples schedule time for intimacy. They\u2019re usually appalled by the lack of spontaneity scheduling suggests. But if your lives are crazy busy\u2026 Knowing with certainty you and your partner will get some skin to skin contact, swap bodily fluids or do whatever it is you like to do together\u2026 Is exponentially preferable to not knowing if\/when you\u2019re going to get it. In my experience, intimacy frequently becomes a casualty of a busy life.<\/li>\n
You know that feeling when your partner surprises you and you think, “Wow, I never knew that about them!”? Keep the mystery alive. Attend workshops together, read books, or just take up a new hobby. As you grow individually, you’ll find that you also grow together.<\/li>\n