In this post I want to talk about something every couple, whether you’ve been together for 3 months or 30 years, can always use a little more of…
…Fun.
Remember the early days of your relationship?
You know, when just the idea of spending time together brought a big goofy grin to your face. Everything was an adventure. Even grocery shopping felt like a treasure hunt.
But, as the days turn into years and life starts throwing its curveballs, many of us forget about the sheer fun of being together. It’s too easy to get caught up in bills, work, and chores, and before you know it, you’re telling your friends how you ‘binge-watched Netflix’ over the weekend as if it’s an achievement.
So, how can we inject that lighthearted, carefree joy back into your relationship?
Here are X ideas for you to consider:
1. Rediscover Your Shared Passions
Think about it: What did you two love doing together when you first met? Whether it was hiking, dancing, or even just playing card games, revisit those activities. They might seem silly or trivial now, but trust me, there’s magic in reliving those early days.
2. Embark on a New Adventure
Let me tell you about this guy I know, he and his wife realised they’d never learned to dance properly. So, on a whim, they signed up for salsa lessons. Now, this guy has two left feet. Seriously. But he told me the laughter and joy of stepping on each other’s toes, getting their moves hilariously wrong, and slowly getting better made it an unforgettable experience.
So, what’s your ‘salsa’? Maybe it’s cooking classes, learning a new sport, or even picking up an instrument. Remember, it’s less about perfection and more about taking the journey together.
3. Create Fun Rituals
These don’t have to be grand gestures.
They can be as simple as ‘Pizza Tuesday’ nights or playing a board game every Sunday afternoon. What’s important is a commitment to consistently spend lighthearted time together.
4. Learn to Laugh at Yourself
Life is full of ups and downs.
But when you can find humour in your mishaps and not take yourselves too seriously, you’re already a step ahead. So the next time you make a silly mistake or find yourself in a ridiculous situation, laugh it off together.
5. Prioritise Your Connection
This is crucial.
Fun thrives in a loving, secure environment. So, while it’s important to pursue activities, it’s equally vital to nurture your emotional connection. A simple check-in at the end of the day or regular date nights can make a huge difference.
Many of the couples I work with failed to make their connection together a priority. They relegated connection forming activities, allowed them to sink to the bottom of a never ending ‘To Do’ list.
And guess what?
That’s right.
They didn’t happen.
And if you don’t prioritise your connection, it will weaken over time.
Now, I understand—life is hectic.
Between juggling work, family, social commitments, and the million and one other things demanding your attention…
…Finding time to just ‘have fun’ seems like a luxury.
But here’s where I want to challenge you: And yes, I’m speaking directly to you!
Fun isn’t a luxury.
It’s a necessity.
The happiest, most resilient couples are those who actively seek out and prioritise fun. They understand that amidst the chaos, it’s those shared giggles, inside jokes, and spontaneous dance-offs that help to keep the spark alive.
In spite of the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune.
So, here’s your takeaway:
This week, find one way to bring back the fun in your relationship. Just one. It doesn’t have to be big or flashy. Maybe it’s trying out a new dessert recipe together or taking a walk without your phones.
Whatever it is, make the conscious choice to prioritise joy.
Because at the end of the day, relationships aren’t just about the grand romantic gestures or the dramatic moments. They’re about those little, everyday joys that you find in each other’s company.
Until next time, keep finding reasons to smile together.
Bye for now
Marcus Santer.
P.S. If you want help bringing the sparkle and fizz back into your relationship…
