Being a relationship therapist has given me many valuable insights into what nurtures relationships…
…And what harms them.
And whilst the love and connection between every couple I work with is as unique as a snowflake or a fingerprint…
…There are a handful of mistakes I see repeated over and over again.
Today, I’d like to share one of them with you.
I call it: Telepathy.
In this post, I’ll explain what it is and then share a simple antidote to it.
“Hello, South Devon Couples Therapy… How can I help you?”
That’s my standard response to picking up the phone.
And the caller hung up in reply.
Okay, no worries, the wrong number I thought, and got back to work.
A few minutes later…
…You guessed it:
I was working with a couple dealing with the fall out from an affair.
The injured party had understandably embraced the ‘Victim’ role.
And the perpetrator was in the ‘Bad Guy’ role.
This is natural, understandable, and totally acceptable when the revelation of an affair is experienced.
But it’s not a place from which repair of the relationship can occur.
Choosing a couples counsellor isn’t easy. Why?
Because as soon as you start looking for one you’re overwhelmed with misleading advertising, misleading claims and a tsunami of bad information.
So how do you find the very best couples counselling without wasting precious time, energy and money? Especially when you’ve no idea of what’s involved?
You start by reading this post.
Here are 9 simple ways you can demonstrate to your partner that you’re there for them: